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Last week, Brian and I spoke in church together about parenting.  I mentioned that our kids aren’t born with an instruction manual or a little tag that tells what they are supposed to be when they grow up.  God does not tell US the purpose for our child’s life–He communicates that to THEM, as they walk with Him and look for His direction in their lives.  It is our job to point them to God, to teach them how to seek Him and hear His voice.  Then they will know why they are created, what their purpose is in life, and what they are supposed to be.  When our boys were too young to seek God on their own and ask for His direction, I remember singing the song “Be The Center” and thinking of them.  The song is a prayer.  It says, “Jesus, be the center…be my source, be my light, be the wind in these sails…be the reason that I live.”  I sang, “Be the wind in THEIR sails…be the reason that THEY live.”  What a huge responsibility we have as parents; and what a joy to point our kids to God.  He has a great plan for their lives!

I love 80’s music!  I guess it’s because it is fun, and it reminds me of high school and college.  I had the chance to see Chicago in concert a few years ago.  They are timeless.  Journey.  Def Leppard.  REO Speedwagon.  A few of my favorites.  What about you?  Do you have some favorite 80’s groups?

Tones are set in the first 5 minutes–  the first five minutes of a movie, or concert, the first 5 minutes of a work day, a blind date, a race or even a boxing match!  Early on, a tone is set that often lingers and almost dictates the rest of the event–or at least our initial feelings about it.  As women, we are TONE SETTERS.  Think about it.  The first 5 minutes of the day, when everyone is getting up and ready for the day, we have the opportunity, whether we think about it or not, to set the tone for the morning.  If mom is grumpy and bossy or happy and smiley–it usually impacts the way everyone else feels. The first 5 minutes of the evening when everyone walks in the door or gets off the school bus we have the opportunity to create an atmosphere–and we do create one–whether it is a positive one or not.  How cool that it usually only takes five minutes!  I want to really “clock in” for that short period of time.  After that, everyone is about their business and the tone has already been set.

My Dad is 65 today.  I knew him in his twenties!  I can’t imagine that that cool, young, athletic guy is breathing the word “medicare.” But you need to know that he is graduating in May with his PH.D IN COUNSELING!! Still cool, young and athletic!  I have to write about him today because he and my mom are waiting patiently for God to come through for them.  I have watched this man through the last forty years, and seen him to be completely FAITHFUL to God.  God in turn has never let him down.  As a child, my parents would pull all of us into the living room and teach us to pray for God to come through when we had no money.  When we could see no help in sight, God did amazing things in our lives!!  As an adult, I want to work out everything and give my parents the best situation (as I am sure they felt the same when we were little.)  But I KNOW, not just in my head, but with my heart, and a lifetime of experience, that God can be TRUSTED and that He can handle every situation!!  Mom and Dad taught us that God is faithful, and now it is our turn to watch Him be faithful to them!! I am thanking God ahead of time (like they taught us to do) for what He is going to do with Dad and the job He will provide!  I will keep you “posted.”

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, DAD!

Brian spoke at a Leadership Network conference in Dallas, TX this week, and I was able to go with him!  It was a great conference, and I was inspired.  Speakers were actually on a timer–it was all quality and to the point, which goes along well with my short attention span!   While we were there, we enjoyed some Texas brisket and experienced the worst ice storm that Dallas has had in six years!  

On the way home I read a book that we purchased at the conference.  It is called Nice Girls Don’t Change The World, by Lynn Hybels.  What a great book.  It too was a quick read–I think I read it in 20 minutes, but it really impacted me concerning the way many Christian girls grow up.  Because we sometimes have an inaccurate view of God, we can miss being all that He created US to be! This is a freeing book for those of us who feel like we can never attain to all that we are supposed to do!

Now I am glad to be home!  I can certainly appreciate more of what Brian experiences when he speaks out of town!  Extreme exhaustion!  And, of course, meeting wonderful people who add to what we are doing in life!  It is a blessing to visualize how God is working in so many places all over the world.

I love Fridays!  It is Brian’s day off–and he actually TAKES the day off!  So, it is my day off too.  We hang out all day until Zach gets off the bus.  We often get coffee, go out for lunch, shop, exercise or go to a movie.  We wash his truck.  We talk and laugh.  He doesn’t shave.  Fridays keep me going for the long run.  God took a day off too–and He wasn’t even tired!  What a great idea!

(This is a poem I love.  The author is unknown.)

She came tonight as I sat alone

The Girl I used to be

And she gazed at me with her earnest eye

And questioned reproachfully:

Have you forgotten the many plans 

And hopes I had for you:

The great career, the splendid fame,

All the wonderful things too

Where is the mansion of stately height

With all its gardens rare?

The silken robes that I dreamed for you

And the jewels in your hair?

And as she spoke, I was very sad 

For I wanted her pleased with me…

This slender girl from the shadowy past

The girl that I used to be.

So gently rising, I took her hand

And guided her up the stairs

Where peacefully sleeping, my babies lay

Innocent, sweet, and fair.

And I told her that these are my only gems,

And precious they are to me;

That silken robes is my motherhood

Of costly simplicity.

And my mansion of stately height is love,

And the only career I know

Is serving each day in these sheltered walls

For the dear ones who come and go

And as I spoke to my shadowy guest,

She smiled through her tears at me.

And I saw the woman that I am now

Pleased the girl I used to be.

Brian spoke a couple weeks ago about making 2 degree shifts.  I love that idea, as I am sometimes an extremist.  To change a little, turns into a lot of change.  The book he referred to is Heart Shift, written by John Trent.  Good book.

As Brian and I prepare to speak together in our parenting series, I am remembering another great book I once read:  Raising Faithful Kids In A Fast-Paced World by Dr. Paul Faulkner.   This book was compiled  by interviewing exceptionally successful people who had managed to raise strong vibrant families.  You will see that they had much in common.  Great book!!!

And my last book mention–The Saggy Baggy Elephant.  I love this little Golden Book.  I once used it in a meeting to speak to teachers!  It is about a little elephant who doesn’t really like himself and tries to change to be like others, until he finds out how special and valuable he really is!  Good children’s book for all of us!!

I had dinner tonight with the Oak Leaf Church staff wives!  They are awesome, and God is doing amazing things at their church in Cartersville!  It is fun to hear about what God is doing in different places.  Anytime you get with other church planters’ wives, you instantly have a lot in common. Fun night.